Your Emotions Are Telling You Something
Crying = sad.
Mad = frustrated.
Anxious = worried.
Excited = planning.
It’s not that complicated.
But we’ve been trained to override it.
Ignore it.
Push through it.
Drink over it.
Scroll past it.
Your emotions are not random.
They’re data.
Crying = Sad
Crying isn’t weakness.
It’s usually grief.
Something didn’t go the way you hoped.
Something feels unfair.
Something feels heavy.
Crying says:
“This matters.”
Instead of asking, “Why am I like this?”
Ask:
“What did I lose?”
Clarity softens sadness faster than suppression ever will.
Mad = Frustration
Anger often means:
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A boundary was crossed
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An expectation wasn’t met
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You feel unheard
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Something feels unfair
Anger isn’t evil.
It’s protective.
It’s your internal system saying:
“This doesn’t feel right.”
The question isn’t “Why am I angry?”
It’s:
“What needs adjusting?”
Anxious = Worry
Anxiety usually points to uncertainty.
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Money unclear
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Conversations avoided
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Outcomes unknown
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Responsibilities stacking
Anxiety is often unstructured thinking.
It says:
“I don’t feel secure.”
Structure calms anxiety.
Open the account.
Have the conversation.
Write the list.
Clarity reduces panic.
Excited = Planning
Excitement is forward motion.
It’s energy.
It means:
“This feels aligned.”
“This feels possible.”
“This feels good.”
Excitement wants movement.
Channel it into action.
Emotions Are Signals, Not Verdicts
They are not personality flaws.
They are not moral judgments.
They are information.
You wouldn’t ignore the fuel light in your car.
Why ignore internal signals?
Alcohol Scrambles the Signal
Alcohol can:
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Turn sadness into spiralling
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Turn frustration into aggression
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Turn anxiety into catastrophising
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Turn excitement into impulsive decisions
Clear emotions are easier to interpret.
Blurry emotions are louder.
The Real Skill
The skill isn’t suppressing emotions.
It’s decoding them.
Ask:
What is this telling me?
Not:
How do I stop feeling this?
Feelings move faster when they’re understood.
Final Thought
Crying means something mattered.
Anger means something needs adjusting.
Anxiety means something needs structure.
Excitement means something wants action.
Your emotions are data.
Reduce volatility.
Add structure.
Protect your energy.
Lower self-criticism.
Lower alcohol if it clouds clarity.
You don’t need to silence yourself.
You need to listen.
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