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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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Dear Mini Child (Age 76)

 



Dear mini child, you’re seventy-six,

Still throwing fits, still pulling tricks.

You called me small, you called me slow,

While I was busy helping you grow.


You said I’d never quite mature,

Said drama followed me for sure.

Funny, since I was the one

Doing the work so you could run.


You said I never laughed or played—

Hard to do that while unpaid.

I raised myself, I learned the rules,

While you collected tantrum tools.


Plot twist here (and isn’t it rich?):

I grew up fast. You stayed a bitch.

(Or swap that line if you want it clean 😌)


So here’s a toast, no hard feelings—fine:

You aged in years.

I aged in spine.


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