You Were Never Hard to Love (They Were Just Bad at Loving)

You Were Never “Too Much” – They Were Too Little 🧡

By Vikki – How To Feel Fucking Amazing

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Maybe someone once made you feel like loving you was a chore. Like you were “too much”, “too needy”, “too sensitive”, “too emotional”. Maybe they sighed when you had feelings. Rolled their eyes when you needed reassurance. Went quiet when you were hurting.

So you started to believe you were hard to love.

You weren’t.

They didn’t know how to love, so they blamed you

People who can’t handle emotional closeness often turn it into your flaw:

• “You’re too intense.”
• “You’re overreacting.”
• “You’re so dramatic.”
• “You always need something.”

Translation: “I don’t have the capacity for real intimacy, so I’m going to shame you for wanting it.”

Your needs were never unreasonable

Wanting consistency isn’t needy.

Wanting communication isn’t clingy.

Wanting respect isn’t demanding.

Wanting to feel chosen isn’t crazy.

Those are basic emotional needs. The fact someone couldn’t meet them doesn’t make you hard to love—it makes them emotionally unavailable.

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If you grew up feeling “too much”, you probably shrank yourself

If your childhood taught you that your feelings were annoying, embarrassing or inconvenient, you likely:

• apologise for your emotions,
• downplay your needs,
• stay quiet to “keep the peace”,
• accept crumbs and call it love.

That doesn’t mean you’re hard to love. It means you were conditioned to accept low effort and call it normal.

The right people won’t be scared of your depth

The right person will not:

• mock your sensitivity,
• punish you for having needs,
• use your vulnerability against you,
• make you feel guilty for wanting reassurance.

The right person will see your depth as a gift, not a burden.

You weren’t hard to love – you were asking for love from the emotionally unavailable

It’s like handing your heart to someone who can’t even hold their own and then blaming yourself when they drop it.

That was never on you.

Before you go…

You were never too much.

They were just too limited.

Your intensity, your tenderness, your loyalty, your honesty—none of that makes you hard to love.

In the right hands, you’re effortless to love.

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