Why Do Narcissists Take The Joy Out Of Everything?

When They Turn Happiness Into Hurt 💜

By Vikki – How To Feel Fucking Amazing

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Narcissists have a habit of draining joy from moments that should feel happy, peaceful, exciting or special. Birthdays, holidays, celebrations, achievements — they find a way to make it about them, or make it negative. And you end up feeling confused, guilty or empty.

Why do narcissists ruin good moments?

Narcissists ruin good moments because they feel threatened when attention isn’t on them. Joy makes them insecure, so they create conflict or drama to regain control.

Why can’t narcissists just enjoy happiness?

They struggle to feel genuine happiness for other people. Your joy reminds them of what they lack, so rather than share it, they sabotage it.

Why do narcissists get angry when things are going well?

Calm, happy energy means they’re not in control. Narcissists feel safest when there’s tension, chaos or emotional intensity — that’s where they know how to survive.

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Why does it feel deliberate?

Because it often is. Narcissists intentionally create discomfort to pull attention back to themselves or punish you for being happy without them at the centre.

Why does it hurt so much?

Because your happiness is personal. When someone attacks it, it feels like they’re attacking your heart, your memories and your ability to feel joy at all.

How do I protect my joy?

1. Stop expecting them to celebrate with you

They won’t. And that’s not your failure.

2. Share joy with safe people

Joy grows around support.

3. Celebrate quietly if needed

Your happiness doesn’t need an audience.

4. Stop explaining your feelings

Narcissists don’t want to understand — they want control.

Is this normal narcissistic behaviour?

Yes. Narcissists consistently struggle to feel happiness for others and often punish people who experience joy without them being the centre of it.

FAQ

Do narcissists do this on purpose?

Often yes. They know joy strengthens you, so they undermine it.

Why do they ruin special occasions?

Because special moments aren’t about them, and that threatens them.

Can a narcissist ever be happy for me?

Not consistently. Their happiness depends on control and validation.

Before you go…

Your joy is not too much. Your happiness is not wrong. They tried to take it because they knew how powerful it was. Protect it now. Grow it now. Celebrate it for you.

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