Why Christmas Makes You Miss People You Shouldn’t Miss 🎄💔

By Vikki – How To Feel Fucking Amazing

Christmas has a weird emotional magic. One minute you’re eating a chocolate orange, the next you’re missing someone who treated you like crap three Decembers ago.

Your brain suddenly plays emotional flashbacks like it’s Netflix:

“Remember that one nice moment?”

Yes brain. We also remember the trauma. But sure, let’s romanticise ONE MINUTE OF KINDNESS.

Nostalgia is a sneaky bitch

Your brain stores memories by emotion, not logic. So holidays activate attachment memories, old relationships, childhood stuff, and every cosy moment you’ve ever had—even with the wrong people.

You’re not missing THEM. You’re missing the feeling.

This is huge:

You don’t actually want the person—you want connection, warmth, love, safety, validation and emotional closeness.

But your brain attaches that feeling to whoever happened to give you a tiny drop of it at some point.

Your brain edits out the trauma

The brain loves nostalgia and hates loneliness. So it rewrites history like:

“They weren’t THAT bad…”

BABE. They were worse.

If you’re thinking of texting your ex…

Drink water. Sit down. Breathe. And ask yourself:

“Do I miss them or do I miss being loved?”

Because if that person was actually good for you, you wouldn’t be reading this.

Christmas = emotional vulnerability

Loneliness feels louder.

Nostalgia hits harder.

Everything feels more dramatic and meaningful.

But feelings aren’t facts.

Before you do anything…

Remember who you are NOW.

Not who you were THEN.

You’ve grown. You’ve healed. You’re wiser. You’re stronger. You deserve someone who actually treats you with love—not seasonal attention.

If someone belongs in your future—they’ll show up soberly

Not because it’s Christmas.

Not because they’re bored.

Not because they’re lonely.

And definitely not because they finally realised what they’re missing (translation: “no one else replied”).

Before you go…

If you’re feeling emotional this Christmas—you’re not weak, you’re human. And honestly? Missing someone doesn’t mean you want them back.

It means you’re ready for real connection.