Why The Calm and Chaos Cannot Mix

When Peace Meets Someone Who Lives In Chaos 🌿

By Vikki – How To Feel Fucking Amazing

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Some people live in calm. Some people live in chaos. And when those two energies collide, the calm person gets pulled into the storm long before the chaotic person ever steps into peace.

Why can't calm and chaos mix?

Because calm requires safety, and chaos thrives on emotional instability. Your nervous system can’t hold peace while someone else keeps triggering threat responses.

Why does chaos always win in the moment?

Because chaos activates survival mode. When survival mode turns on, calm turns off. Your brain prioritises danger over peace automatically.

Why do I lose my peace around certain people?

Because your nervous system absorbs emotional energy. Chaotic people don’t regulate themselves, so your body tries to regulate the room.

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Why do some people create chaos on purpose?

Because chaos gives them control, attention, or emotional power. Some people don’t know who they are without drama.

Why does peace feel threatened?

Peace requires emotional safety, stability and boundaries—things chaotic people resist or destroy.

How do I protect my calm?

1. Limit access to chaotic people

Distance is self-care, not cruelty.

2. Stop trying to stabilise them

You can’t regulate someone else’s emotional storms.

3. Choose quiet over conflict

Your peace is more important than their drama.

4. Move away from emotional noise

Space heals what chaos breaks.

Why does chaos feel familiar?

If you grew up around chaos, your brain learned that chaos = normal. Peace will feel strange at first—but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It means it’s new.

Signs you’re choosing calm

• you don’t take the bait
• you refuse to argue
• you walk away sooner
• you prioritise peace
• you stop explaining yourself

FAQ

Why does chaos drain me?

Your nervous system burns energy attempting to stay safe.

Can calm heal chaos?

No. Chaos must want to heal itself.

Should I distance myself?

Before you go…

Chaos isn’t your home anymore.

Your nervous system deserves peace, softness and safety.

Protect your calm like it’s your life—because it actually is.

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