When Your Narcissistic Ex Texts You at Christmas (Read This Before You Reply) 🎄📱

By Vikki – How To Feel Fucking Amazing

Ah yes, Christmas. A magical time when narcissistic exes suddenly remember your number and crawl out of emotional hibernation like:

“Hope you’re okay! Merry Christmas ❤️”

No. Put your phone down. This is not love. This is HOOVERING with tinsel.

Why they ALWAYS text at Christmas

Narcissists hate emotional silence. Christmas is emotionally intense, nostalgic, and full of vulnerability. They KNOW this.

So they try to slide back in when your guard is down.

It’s strategic, not sentimental.

“But what if they changed?”

They didn’t. They got bored.

Narcissists don’t improve over Christmas— they get lonely.

Their message means nothing

Narcissistic texts are basically:

• “Is my supply still available?”
• “Do I still have access to you?”
• “Can I get attention today?”
• “Are you still emotionally responsive?”

If you reply, they win

You don’t have to say anything. You don’t owe them politeness.

Silence is a boundary.

No response IS a response.

Christmas is prime hoover season

Narcissists message at Christmas because:

• they’re bored
• their supply is distracted
• they’re lonely
• they want attention
• they want control
• they need validation
• they want to see if you’re still available

None of this equals love.

If you’re tempted to reply…

Ask yourself:

“Did this person add peace or pain to my life?”

If the answer is pain, do not go backwards.

You don’t need closure

Closure comes when you accept that they’ll never be the person you hoped they were.

Not when you reply to a festive manipulation text.

Before you go…

That Christmas text isn’t love. It’s ego. It’s loneliness. It’s testing the waters.

You don’t have to open the door just because someone knocked.

Your peace is the gift.