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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

Love

By Vikki


Today I wrote myself a love letter.


Not because everything is perfect, but because I finally understand that love doesn’t only come from other people—it has to come from me first.


I wrote the words slowly.

As if my heart needed time to hear them.


You are happy.

Even on the days that feel heavy, happiness still exists inside you. Sometimes quiet, sometimes soft, but always there.


You are joyful.

You don’t have to earn it.

You don’t have to prove anything.

Joy belongs to you because you exist.


You are enough.

Not when you change.

Not when you improve.

Not when life looks perfect.


Right now.

As you are.


There is nothing missing.


And then I wrote one more line—maybe the most important one of all:


Don’t let anything or anyone steal your joy.


Because joy isn’t loud.

It isn’t dramatic.

It doesn’t chase attention.


Joy is quiet.

Soft.

Sacred.


And it’s yours.


Today, I’m choosing to protect it.

Like love.

Like truth.

Like something precious. 💛


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