HAD ENOUGH (NUF): The Reverse of Fun When You’re Around Narcissists
HAD ENOUGH (NUF): The Reverse of Fun When You’re Around Narcissists
Introduction: When “Fun” Is Actually a Cry for Help
You ever look back at a night out with a narcissist and think,
“Wow… that wasn’t fun. That was a hostage situation with cocktails.”
At the time you thought you were living your best life — sparkly outfit, false eyelashes, tequila optimism — but your soul was whispering, “Girl… run.”
That wasn’t fun.
That was F-U-N backwards:
NUF.
As in: “I’ve had ENOUGH of this shit.”
Welcome to the anti-fun zone: population, anyone who’s ever dated, married, birthed, or accidentally befriended a narcissist.
Let’s talk about it.
1. Narcissists Don’t Do Fun — They Do Performances
A narcissist’s idea of fun is basically a one-man Broadway show where:
- they’re the star,
- you’re the unpaid intern,
- and somehow you’re still apologising after the curtain closes.
They don’t go out to have a good time.
They go out to be admired, worshipped, photographed, and maybe fed if you're lucky.
Fun?
No, babe. That’s admin work.
2. “Fun” With a Narcissist Is Just Trauma With Glitter
Let’s be honest.
That weekend away where everything went wrong?
You blamed the weather.
You blamed the hotel.
You blamed Mercury.
You even blamed the fish and chips for giving you attitude.
But the truth was:
YOU WERE HOLIDAYING WITH A NARCISSIST.
Nothing is relaxing when you:
- spend the whole time dodging mood swings,
- guessing what version of them you’re waking up to,
- and pretending you’re not crying in the bathroom on day two.
Glitter.
Just glitter over a dumpster fire.
3. Signs You’ve Reached NUF Levels
Here’s how you know you’ve crossed from FUN → NUF:
✔ You feel tired before you’ve even left the house
You’re not getting ready… you’re preparing for war.
✔ Their texts give you indigestion
“Where are you?” shouldn’t make your colon tremble.
✔ You need a recovery day after spending one hour with them
Congratulations, you’ve been emotionally waterboarded.
✔ You start avoiding people because your nervous system needs annual leave
Not introversion — survival mode.
4. Narcissists Are Allergic to Your Joy
Have you ever laughed too hard at something that wasn’t them?
Watch how fast they ruin the moment.
You: “OMG this meme is hilarious!”
Them: “Must be nice to have time to laugh…”
Sir.
Please.
Touch grass.
Your joy is their kryptonite because it reminds them they’re not the centre of the universe.
(And also because they have the emotional range of a compost bin.)
5. The Moment You Officially Hit “NUF”
It’s usually something tiny, like:
- They eat your last biscuit.
- They breathe in a way that annoys you.
- They say “calm down” when you were already calm.
And suddenly your entire body says:
“I’m done. Finished. NUF-ed out. No more admin for this grown toddler.”
This is your freedom alarm.
The final straw.
The goodbye sparkle.
6. What REAL Fun Looks Like After Narcissist Detox
Once you’re free, you rediscover the weirdest joys:
- Laughing without checking who’s watching.
- Sleeping without a fear of 6am drama.
- Eating biscuits without emotional consequences.
- Being ugly-happy in your pyjamas.
- Peace. Sweet, glorious silence.
And the best part?
You realise you’re bloody hilarious.
You were just too exhausted to notice.
7. Final Wisdom: If It Feels Like Fun but Drains Your Soul… It’s NUF
Fun lifts you.
NUF drains you.
Fun gives life.
NUF steals it, gaslights it, and then blames you for upsetting it.
Life after narcissistic abuse is about relearning REAL joy: the gentle, silly, warm kind that doesn’t cost you your sanity or your dignity.
You deserve a life full of actual fun — laughing till you wheeze, drinking tea in peace, walking around with your tits unbothered and your mind calm.
Because you are done with NUF.
You are done with nonsense.
You are done with emotional toddlers.
And you are done apologising for wanting a life that feels fucking amazing.
Ready to Swap NUF for Real Fun?
Journal prompt: Where in your life are you calling something “fun” that actually leaves you drained, anxious, or doubting yourself?
Tiny action for today: Say “no” once. To a plan, a person, a message, or a drama you’d normally get dragged into. Protect your peace like it’s your last biscuit.
Reminder: You are not “too sensitive.” You were just surrounded by people who were too careless with your heart.
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