Do Your Friends Match Your Calm Energy or Not?

When Your Peace Meets Other People’s Energy 💙

By Vikki – How To Feel Fucking Amazing

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As you heal, your energy changes. You become calmer, more grounded, more peaceful, and suddenly you notice something: some people can sit with your calm... and some people can’t.

Do your friends match your calm energy or not?

You can tell by how you feel around them. If your nervous system relaxes, your energy matches. If you feel tense, drained, or overstimulated, the energies clash.

Why does calm feel uncomfortable for some people?

Because calm exposes their chaos. Some people use noise, drama or emotional intensity to avoid their own feelings. Your peace reminds them of what they haven’t healed.

Why do you feel calmer with certain people?

Because their nervous system is regulated. Calm energy recognises calm energy. It’s emotional safety, not luck.

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Signs someone matches your calm energy

• conversations feel easy
• you don’t have to perform
• you don’t feel drained after
• you don’t walk on eggshells
• your body feels relaxed around them

Signs someone doesn't match your calm

• you leave feeling exhausted
• they start chaos for no reason
• they unload without asking how you are
• they make everything dramatic
• you can’t relax around them

Why this matters

Your nervous system learns from the people around you. Calm friendships support healing. Chaotic friendships keep your nervous system on high alert.

How to protect your calm

1. Spend more time with peaceful people

Energy rubs off.

2. Reduce contact with emotional chaos

You don’t need that intensity anymore.

3. Stop explaining your calm

You don’t need approval to protect your peace.

4. Choose peace over performance

Before you go…

You’re allowed to grow out of chaotic friendships.

You’re allowed to need peace now.

The calmer you become, the more your circle will change.

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