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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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I’m Vikki. I’m a Single Mum. And I’m Still Standing.

 

I didn’t ask for easy. I asked for real.

I wake up every day with a to-do list longer than my patience. I juggle bills, tantrums, work stress, and the crushing weight of trying to be everything for everyone. Some days I feel like I’m drowning in laundry and expectations. Other days, I feel like a damn superhero.

But here’s the truth: I’m not here to be perfect. I’m here to survive — and maybe even thrive.


💥 I’m Not Broken. I’m Becoming.

I’ve been through heartbreak, disappointment, and nights where I cried myself to sleep wondering if I was enough. But I kept going. Not because I had it all together — but because I refused to give up.

I’m building a life from the scraps of what fell apart. And every time I choose to show up, I’m rewriting the story.


You’re not alone. You’re not crazy. You’re not failing.

You’re doing the best you can with what you’ve got — and that’s f***ing amazing.


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