How to Get Your Mental Health Back After Leaving a Narcissist (And Feel Fucking Amazing)

Here’s the thing nobody tells you:

You don’t just “break up” with a narcissist.

You ESCAPE.

It’s an emotional prison break.

And then you’re left sitting there like:

“Right… what now? Do I knit? Do I cry? Do I sleep for 9 months?”

So let’s talk about how to get your head back on straight after the most mentally draining fucking circus act of your life.

1) Step One: Go Full No Contact.

Do not text them.

Do not reply to their essay.

Do not peek at their Instagram.

Block the bastard everywhere.

This is not rude.

This is self-protection.

You’re not “playing games” — you’re closing the fucking casino.

2) Step Two: Stop Trying to Be the Lovely One

Narcissists TRAIN you to perform niceness.

They feed on “kindness”.

Fuck that.

You do not have to be the angelic ex.

You do not have to be polite.

You do not have to explain yourself.

You owe them nothing.

NOTHING.

3) Step Three: Get Your Money Back in YOUR Hands

This part is sexy.

Open your online banking, sit down, and take control again.

• Block them from any access they used to have
• Change online passwords
• Start tracking YOUR money, even in a little note section in your phone
• One tiny money win per day

Money is safety.

Money is freedom.

Money is the biggest middle finger to a narcissist because they can’t control you when you own your financial life.

4) Step Four: Rewire Your Identity One Little Boring Calm Day at a Time

You know what a power move is?

A peaceful cup of tea with nobody shouting at you.

Clean bed sheets without drama.

Going to sleep without a 3am toxic text message argument.

Small boring beautiful shit.

That’s YOUR new life.

5) Step Five: Bring in Micro-Joy

You don’t need a spa weekend in Bali.

You need tiny joy drops.

• watching fireworks with your kid
• clean hair and a good bra
• a slow morning with sunshine coming in your window
• dancing in the kitchen like an idiot

You’re not “rebuilding” — you’re reclaiming.

The new rule:

Everything that drains you is a NO.

Everything that feels good is a YES.

That’s how women / men get their minds back after narcissists.

Not by talking to them.

Not by trying to fix them.

Not by understanding them.

By focusing on our own fucking life again.

What’s YOUR little power win today?

Because we are not surviving anymore.

We are LIVING.

And we are done apologising for it.