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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

Chaos, Coffee & Glitter

Chaos, Coffee & Glitter

Chaos, Coffee & Glitter

Some days you wake up feeling like a majestic unicorn. Other days, you trip over your own sock and spill coffee on your soul.

Either way, you’re still fabulous.

Life’s messy. Embrace the chaos. Wear mismatched socks. Dance in your kitchen. Laugh at your own jokes (they’re hilarious, obviously).

Sprinkle glitter on your bad mood. Sip coffee like it’s a love language. And remember: you’re not too much — the world’s just not used to this level of sparkle.

Stay weird. Stay wonderful. Stay wildly you.

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