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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

The 10-Day Roast Dinner Streak

It started innocently enough.

One roast dinner on a Sunday — nothing unusual there. Monday rolled around, and I thought, Why not again? By Tuesday, it wasn’t even a decision anymore.


By the end of the week, I was a walking carvery.


Every day, the same routine: meat, potatoes, vegetables, gravy. Like a scene from Groundhog Day, but instead of Bill Murray learning French and ice sculpting, I was mastering roast potato crispiness and gravy viscosity.


Somewhere around day four, I realised I was feeling… amazing. My energy was up. I wasn’t prowling the kitchen for biscuits at midnight. The scales even crept down, which was confusing because I’d basically been bathing my food in gravy.


It was strangely comforting. No “what’s for dinner?” conversations. No cupboard staring. Just one plate, waiting at the end of the day. The smell alone became a kind of therapy — roast chicken, bubbling gravy, vegetables doing whatever it is vegetables do when they feel useful.


By day ten, I felt lighter. Not just in weight, but in brain clutter. It was like the roast dinners had quietly filed all my mental paperwork while I wasn’t looking.


The streak is over now, but I keep thinking about it. About how something so ordinary turned into this bizarre, brilliant little chapter.


And I’m telling you now — if I suddenly vanish from social media for two weeks, check the nearest Sunday carvery.


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