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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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Parenting Fails That Actually Make You Feel Alive

 Going to the supermarket with a teenager is like entering a survival game you didn’t sign up for.


I went in with a sensible, healthy trolley: a pack of grapes, strawberries, berries, peaches, vegetables, bottled water… plus teabags, toilet roll, Lenor softener, and of course, some wine (for obvious reasons).


Fast forward 20 minutes: the grapes are gone, the strawberries have disappeared, berries and peaches devoured, and the edible vegetables? Obliterated. Bottled water? Emptied. The only things left standing in my trolley like sad little soldiers: teabags, toilet roll, Lenor… and luckily, the wine.


I paid for a trolley full of empty packages and slightly bruised memories of fruit. The wine is safe… for now. But I have no doubt it will vanish in a few years, probably in some mysterious teenage fermentation experiment.


Parenting a teenager in a supermarket: it’s chaos, it’s hilarious, and it’s a harsh reminder that your perfectly healthy plans are just suggestions. The edible stuff is gone before you even reach the checkout, but hey… you survived. And you might even get a sip of wine when you finally make it home.


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