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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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Oge the Reverse of Ego for Your Wallet

Your ego is sneaky. It’s that little voice whispering, “You don’t need advice, you know best!” or “I can handle it myself!” — and guess what? That voice is probably draining your bank account faster than you realise.


Here’s how it happens:


  • Ignoring professional advice: You think, “I don’t need an accountant, I’ve got Excel!” Fast-forward six months — mistakes, fines, and missed deductions. That “I-can-do-it-myself” attitude just cost you hundreds, maybe thousands.
  • Buying to impress: Your ego says, “I deserve the flashy bag/car/gadget!” Not because you need it, but because you want to look a certain way. That’s money you’ll never get back.
  • Refusing to negotiate: You’re too proud to haggle, ask for discounts, or demand better rates. Ego says, “No, I don’t need to haggle, it’s fine.” Meanwhile, your wallet cries quietly in the corner.



The truth? Your ego doesn’t make you richer, it makes you poorer. Humility, curiosity, and asking for help might feel weird at first — but your bank account will thank you.


Pro tip: Check your ego at the door. Listen, learn, and save yourself some serious cash.


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