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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How I Got Rid of a Stalker

Yes, it happened. This guy was texting me 20 times a day, driving past my house 10 times a day, deflating my car tire every two weeks (making it look like a “slow puncture”), and following me whenever I went out. It was fucking annoying.


So, what did I do?


  1. Blocked him everywhere. Social media, phone, email — the works. Out of sight, out of mind.
  2. Told mutual friends and acquaintances. Everyone who might run into him knew he was stalking me, which made it harder for him to use people as loopholes to get to me.
  3. Avoided predictable routines. I didn’t confront him, but I changed patterns so I wasn’t easy to follow or bump into.
  4. Stayed calm and consistent. I didn’t involve the police (at least initially) because I felt it might make him escalate.



Eventually, it completely went away. He stopped texting, driving past, and harassing me.


A few notes:


  • If a stalker is threatening your safety, always involve the police. Your safety comes first.
  • Sometimes the best power move is removing yourself from the situation and refusing to feed it attention. It’s not cowardice — it’s strategy.



Stalking is fucking annoying, but it doesn’t have to control your life. Keep your focus, protect yourself, and eventually, the chaos fades.


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