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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

๐ŸŒˆ Happiness Is Not a Point—It’s a Range

A message from Vikki

We’ve been sold this idea that happiness is a destination. A fixed point on a map. A moment when everything aligns and the birds sing and your skin glows and your inbox is empty.


But that’s not how it works.

Happiness isn’t a point. It’s a range.

A spectrum. A rhythm. A pulse.


Some days, happiness is loud—dancing in the kitchen, laughing until your stomach hurts, feeling like the main character in your own damn life.

Other days, it’s quiet—choosing rest over guilt, saying no without explanation, sipping tea in a room that feels like safety.


And sometimes, happiness is just not spiraling.

It’s catching yourself mid-thought and choosing grace.

It’s surviving the day without betraying yourself.

It’s remembering that healing counts, even when it’s invisible.


We don’t need to chase the peak.

We need to honor the range.


Because the truth is, happiness lives in the permission.

To feel what you feel.

To want what you want.

To be where you are.


So if today’s happiness looks like a deep breath and a clean hoodie—let it be enough.

If tomorrow’s happiness looks like champagne and a breakthrough—celebrate it.

And if next week’s happiness is just not texting back—bless it.


You’re not failing. You’re flowing.

And that, my love, is fucking amazing.



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