💣 The Emotional Audit: Who’s Overdue for Deletion?
If they drain your energy, time, or wallet—it’s time to hit delete.
🧠 Why You Need an Emotional Audit
Because not all debts are financial. Some people cost you:
• Mental bandwidth (constant overthinking, emotional labour)
• Time (drama cycles, endless venting, fixing their chaos)
• Money (covering tabs, unpaid favours, “just this once” loans)
• Self-worth (subtle digs, guilt-tripping, boundary erosion)
This isn’t petty. It’s emotional accounting. And you’re the CFO of your life.
📊 The Emotional Ledger Framework
Break it down like a spreadsheet:
🔍 Emotional Audit Examples
1. Mate who only calls when they need something
• Emotional ROI: –80%
• Time Cost: 2 hours/week
• Money Cost: £50/month
• Boundary Respect: Low
• Verdict: DELETE
2. Ex who still texts “just to talk”
• Emotional ROI: –100%
• Time Cost: 5 hours/month
• Money Cost: £0
• Boundary Respect: None
• Verdict: BLOCK
3. Friend who hypes your wins and splits bills fairly
• Emotional ROI: +120%
• Time Cost: 3 hours/month
• Money Cost: £30/month
• Boundary Respect: High
• Verdict: KEEP & INVEST
💸 Monetary Red Flags
• You’re always covering their coffee, drinks, or Uber.
• They “forget” to pay you back.
• They guilt you into expensive plans you didn’t want.
• They treat your generosity like a subscription service.
Reminder: Generosity without reciprocity is exploitation.
🧘♀️ Mental Red Flags
• You feel anxious before meeting them.
• You rehearse conversations in your head.
• You leave interactions feeling drained or doubting yourself.
• They never ask how you are—unless it’s about them.
🧹 The Deletion Ritual
Make it sacred. Make it final.
1. Write their name down.
2. List the costs. Emotional, financial, spiritual.
3. Say out loud: “I’m not your emotional accountant.”
4. Delete/block/mute.
5. Reinvest that energy into someone who adds value—or into yourself.
🔥 Final Line for Impact
You’re not cold. You’re clear. And clarity is the kindest thing you can give yourself.
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