💎 THE 5-PILLAR FULFILMENT STRATEGY

 1. Define What Fulfilment Means to You

❝ If you don’t know what fills your cup, you’ll keep drinking from the wrong one. ❞

Write a list. Ask yourself:

• What makes me feel truly alive?
• What do I do that leaves me feeling light, connected, or whole?
• Who do I feel like my best self around?

☕ Example: Peaceful mornings. Creative work. Feeling heard. Making my daughter laugh.

2. Practise Presence Daily (Even for 5 Minutes)

Fulfilment isn’t in the past or future — it’s in the now.

Try:

• Sit with a cup of tea and really taste it.
• Go for a short walk with no distractions.
• Do one thing slowly on purpose.

These micro-moments reconnect you to yourself and help reset your nervous system — especially after trauma.

3. Protect Your Energy

No fulfilment if you’re constantly drained by other people’s chaos.

Your strategy here:

• Say no without guilt.
• Limit exposure to draining people (grey rock method if needed).
• Don’t chase closure — create peace without it.

4. Do Something That Feeds Your Soul (Weekly)

Not for money. Not for status. Just for you.

🪴 Could be:

• Writing
• Gardening
• Rearranging your flat
• Making weird art no one sees
• Talking to the moon

This reminds your nervous system and your spirit that you matter.

5. Serve Others — On Your Terms

Contribution = connection = fulfilment

But make sure it’s from overflow, not depletion.

Examples:

• Leave kind comments online
• Help a neighbour
• Make your daughter’s favourite snack with love
• Share your story with someone still stuck

✨ Bonus Daily Fulfilment Prompt:

“What’s one thing I can do today that aligns with the life I want to live?”

Even if it’s small — like stretching, tidying, journaling, deleting one toxic contact — that’s fulfilment in action.