Is It Really Love… or Are You Being Financially Sabotaged?

Let’s be honest.

If your partner has money for the pub every night, but you’re behind on the mortgage, rent, bills, or haven’t had a proper holiday in years — something’s not right.

Love should feel like partnership. Not like being a parent to a grown adult who drains your wallet and leaves you broke, stressed, and wondering how the hell you’re going to make it to payday.

If you’re constantly exhausted, juggling everything while your partner spends like there’s no tomorrow, it’s time to ask some disturbing but necessary questions.

😳 Uncomfortable Questions You Might Be Avoiding

These aren’t meant to make you feel bad. They’re meant to wake you up. If even a few of these hit close to home… it’s time to take your power back.

❓ Do they always have money for themselves… but never for you?

• Nights out?
• Takeaways?
• Cigarettes?
• Tech?
• Booze?
• Gambling?

And yet when you need something, it’s “too expensive” or “bad timing”?

❓ Do you feel guilty for spending on yourself, even just £10?

But they drop £40 at the pub without blinking? Or “borrow” your last £20 and forget to pay it back?

❓ Are you the one paying the bills, managing the money, doing the budgeting… but getting no support?

Are you constantly trying to make it work while they’re acting like money grows on trees?

❓ Have you had to cancel holidays, delay bills, or cut corners… because of their spending?

Do you feel like your future is always on hold because they can’t get their shit together financially?

❓ Are you working hard to build a life — while they’re sabotaging it?

You save. They spend.

You worry. They laugh it off.

You plan. They avoid.

That’s not a partnership. That’s a slow-motion trainwreck — and it’s dragging you down with it.

🚩 This Is Financial Sabotage

When someone’s spending habits actively stop you from progressing, it’s not just “bad with money.” It’s financial sabotage.

If you’ve ever said:

• “We can’t afford it right now” — while they’re out drinking or ordering Deliveroo
• “I’m the one carrying this family”
• “I can’t leave… I can’t afford to”

Then you’re not just in a relationship. You’re in a financial trap.

💔 Financial Sabotage Is a Form of Abuse

Just like emotional manipulation or gaslighting, money can be weaponised.

Maybe they’re not physically violent. Maybe they even make you laugh. But if they’re:

• Keeping you broke
• Undermining your goals
• Making you feel crazy or selfish for wanting stability

That’s abuse with a price tag.

✊ You Deserve Better Than “Just Getting By”

You deserve:

• A holiday.
• A savings account that isn’t always empty.
• A home that feels secure.
• A life that isn’t always on the edge of financial disaster.

You don’t have to live like this.

📖 The Book I Wish I’d Had

When I wrote How to Build Wealth on a Low Income, I wasn’t thinking about spreadsheets and stock tips. I was thinking about people like me who had partners draining their finances, their energy, and their hope — and didn’t know where to start.

This book won’t judge you. It won’t shame you. It’ll show you:

• How to take back control
• How to build wealth, even if you’re starting from scratch
• How to stop feeling powerless and start feeling proud

Because real wealth isn’t just money — it’s freedom.

🔥 Final Thoughts: Don’t Wait for Rock Bottom

If you’re reading this with a sick feeling in your stomach, you already know.

You don’t need one more bounced direct debit or one more broken promise to prove it’s not working.

Start small. Start now. But start.

Because if they’re not building with you, they’re burning it down.

👉 Want a path forward?

Get your copy of How to Build Wealth on a Low Income — it’s everything I wish I’d known when I was financially trapped, tired, and scared to leave.

You can rebuild. You can thrive. And you don’t need their permission to start.