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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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💥 Sober Not Sorry

A Storybook for Anyone Who’s Ever Said “Fuck This” and Meant It

I didn’t quit drinking because I’m a saint.

I quit because I was done handing over my sanity to a narcissist with a wine glass.

I didn’t stop smoking because I care what my lungs think.

I stopped because my mother doesn’t get to live in my body anymore.


This isn’t some preachy, perfect recovery tale.

This is a storybook for the rebels, the wrecked, the women who woke up one day and thought:

I’m done.

Done people-pleasing.

Done self-sabotaging.

Done surviving shit I never signed up for.


Sober Not Sorry is part story, part journal, part riot act.

It’s gritty, funny, honest AF — and totally yours if you’re ready to quit drinking, ditch smoking, and finally, finally choose your own peace over their chaos.


Because you’re not weak.

You’re not broken.

You’re just done.


And you don’t have to apologise for that.


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