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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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I Don’t Believe in Manipulation — Here’s What I Do Instead

 I just want to say this upfront, in case it isn’t already clear:


I don’t do shady sales tactics.

I don’t manipulate people into buying my books.

And I’m not interested in pretending to be something I’m not.


Maybe that sounds obvious, but to me — it’s core to who I am, and how I run everything I do.





🤯 Why this matters to me



I’ve been on the receiving end of manipulation — for years.

Emotional manipulation. Financial manipulation. Gaslighting. Guilt-tripping.

It leaves you second-guessing everything, including yourself.


So when I finally broke free and started building my own life, I made a promise to myself:


I won’t use the tools that were used against me.


Not in my relationships.

Not in my parenting.

And definitely not in my business.





🙅‍♀️ What I refuse to do:



  • I don’t create fake urgency to pressure people into buying.
  • I don’t pretend a book is going to fix your whole life overnight.
  • I don’t talk down to people or make them feel like they’re failing if they don’t buy something.



That’s not the energy I want around me — or in the world.





💡 So what 

do

 I do?



I share what helped me.


I write books that I wish someone had handed me when I was lost, overwhelmed, and barely holding it together. I make them honest, practical, sometimes funny, and full of real tools. Then I put them out there and let people decide for themselves.


Yes, I want you to buy my books.

But not because I tricked you.

Because they’re actually useful — and I think you’ll feel stronger, clearer, and more in control if you read them.





💬 If you’re here, you’re not here by accident.



You’re probably someone who’s:


  • Trying to quit drinking or get your energy back
  • Done feeling like crap and want to actually feel good
  • Sick of being broke or stuck
  • Ready to take back your power — without the fluff



And if any of that’s true, then I wrote my books for you.


But again — only if it feels right.





🔗 Here’s what I’ve made, in case you want it:



📘 [Sober Not Sorry] – A wellness and sobriety guide that doesn’t talk down to you

💸 [How to Build Wealth on a Low Income] – Because being broke isn’t a personality trait





💖 Final thing I want you to know:



You’ll never be manipulated here.

Not on this blog. Not in my books.

Just truth, tools, and stories from someone who’s been through it — and got tired of the bullshit.


If that speaks to you, you’re exactly where you need to be.

Have a Beautiful Day

Vikki 


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