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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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Would You Pay £5.99 to Feel More in Control? Honestly?

 Drinking used to be my stress relief. My treat.

But slowly, it started costing me more than I realised — emotionally, mentally, and financially.


I didn’t hit rock bottom.

I just got tired. Tired of the hangovers, the anxiety, the not-quite-feeling-like-myself.


So I stayed sober. One day, then another.

And I wrote a book about it.


It’s called Sober Not Sorry: The Price of the Bottle — and it’s not a lecture.

It’s a real story. About what alcohol was costing me and what I got back when I took a break from it.


This book is for you if:


  • You’re tired of using alcohol to cope
  • You want to feel more steady, more clear, more you
  • You’re sober-curious or already taking a break and just want something honest and relatable



No pressure. No preaching. Just a story you might recognise yourself in.


I’m asking: would you pay £5.99 for that?

For something that might give you clarity, comfort, or even just a bit of calm?


It’s not about quitting forever. It’s about finding out who you are when you’re not drinking — and liking her.


If that sounds like something you need, grab the book now.

If you’ve already read it, I’d love to know what stuck with you.


– Vikki


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