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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

Surrounded by the Wrong People? It’s Draining More Than Your Energy.

 Let’s talk about burnout.

Not just the kind where you’re tired.

The kind where your soul is exhausted and your bank account is suffering, too.


Because when you’re surrounded by the wrong people —

The controlling ones. The narcissists. The guilt-trippers. The drama addicts —

It doesn’t just mess with your mind.

It drains your energy, wrecks your confidence, and slowly chips away at your ability to function, think clearly, or even believe in yourself.


And that shows up in your money.

You overspend to feel better.

You undercharge because you don’t feel worthy.

You stay stuck because you’re too burnt out to move.


I know because I lived it.

I stayed in a toxic relationship for far too long.

I was a single parent trying to keep it all together.

And I was exhausted, broke, and full of self-doubt.


Here’s what helped me climb out:


  • I stopped drinking. (Sober Not Sorry: The Price of the Bottle — on Amazon here)
  • I learned how to build wealth on a low income. (How to Build Wealth on a Low Income — on Amazon here)
  • I cleared out the people and patterns that were keeping me stuck.



These books are my stories, but they’re also practical guides.

They’re for anyone feeling stuck, burned out, underpaid, overworked, and over it.


If you’ve been questioning your life lately,

If your energy’s off, your finances are a mess, and your gut’s screaming “something needs to change” —

Start here.


You don’t have to fix everything today.

But you can take the first step toward peace, clarity, and financial power.


£5.99 and £25. That’s it.

One for your mind. One for your money.

And both written by someone who gets it.


– Vikki


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