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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How To Deal With A Perpetrator

Empowering Strategies for Dealing with Perpetrators of Domestic Abuse

When working with perpetrators of domestic abuse, it’s crucial to approach the situation with care and safety in mind. Here are practical steps to guide your work:

  1. Look/Listen: Perpetrators may present in various ways. They might ask for help with their abusive behaviors, blame others, or even present as victims themselves. Be aware of these signs and listen carefully.

  2. Ask: When a perpetrator discloses any abusive behavior, respond thoughtfully. Encourage responsibility and motivate them toward change, even if the disclosure is indirect.

  3. Assess Risk: Evaluate the risk before deciding your next steps. Prioritize safety for survivors and their children.

  4. Respond: Clearly convey that abusive behavior is unacceptable and a choice. Address a range of behaviors, not just physical violence1.

Remember, your role is essential in promoting safety and well-being. By engaging with perpetrators effectively, you contribute to breaking the cycle of abuse. 🌟1

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