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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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how to deal with a narcissistic mother

 Whatever you tell your narcissistic mother will be used as ammunition against you. I know that all too well as my mother is a narcissist.

If they haven’t got any information on you, they can’t say anything cruel. If They ask you any questions About your life or what you’re doing talk about something neutral or talk about them. as soon as you start talking about yourself you start loading their gun with bullets. 

I know this is probably extreme, but I have blocked my mum‘s phone number blocked her on social media and have no verbal contact. The only time I ever talk to her is when she turns up at my door! 

Narcissists are only ever after three things! control, power and money…

If you don’t give any of these things to them, they won’t have any control Or Power Over you! 

Lastly, they might say something to get a reaction from you. Do not react and play the robot response. 

Big hugs n love, you deserve it 😘 vikki 

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