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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How to get rid of distractions

 You don’t need distractions in life, they keep you off track and lose you time and focus. 

Ignore any texts and calls that don’t serve you, turn your phone on silent and only answer business calls and texts. 

If you’re working from home, schedule your day and if anything interrupts from your schedule politely say you’re not available. 

Decide that your focus time is 9am until 6pm or whatever your hours are and let those hours be for you to achieve your goals. 

Only once you have achieved your goals can you let distractions enter your life as a small reward for achieving the work you had planned. 

Distractions or should I say “bad habits” are only because your not focused on your work/exercise/healthy eating/ good friends  which are all “good habits” 

Create your “good habit” formula to get away from your distractions “bad habits” 

My personal “good habit” formula  is 

  1. 1 hour exercise
  2. Shower
  3. Healthy breakfast (No processed food)
  4. 9-6pm work
  5. Healthy supper ( No processed food or alcohol)
  6. Family time
  7. Sleep for 7-8 hours
This is an example of my Monday to Friday routine but obviously changes slightly some times. 

Create your own it’s a cool way to discipline yourself 

Have fun
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