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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How To Stop Procrastinating

 I have had this problem for a while and the whole "Work From Home" thing is a major distraction when you're trying to get work done.

At the moment I have a sink full or washing up, a carpet covered in nut shells where a certain animal thought it would be a good idea to taste all of the nuts in the bowl, plus a whole laundry service waiting for me to attend to !

and yes im writing this blog now because I would have normally procrastinated due to the chaos in my house but im ignoring it all and just doing my days work until 6pm and then I will deal with it.

Normally I would be in the office and all these distractions wouldn't be around me so I would just work and forget about the mess. Im now sat amongst the mess it would be easy to not work and clean up or get depressed looking at it but I am laser focused on  my work hour time to just work and allocating the mess to the hours I would have normally associated them with.

its easy to procrastinate due to the endless tasks we have but if you allocate certain times for certain tasks life gets a lot easier and everything has its allocated time slot and you get so much more productive.

ill let you get on as I only allocated 15 minuets to this blog post as I have a massive reconciliation task to finish by the end of play today.

Go on get productive, you got this....


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