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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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Surviving The Narcissism Epidemic And Leading A Happy Life

Oh my god, I’m reading everything everywhere and everyone is scared of narcissists! That is definitely not the way to live! 

I’ve dealt with narcissists my whole life and they’re not dangerous, they’re just control freaks. 

I see them everywhere and luckily I only have to deal with the ones I’m related too or have a child with 🙄

They try to control people and situations everywhere but admittedly their exhaustion starts showing up badly in midlife.

I’m tired even thinking of trying to control people and situations, but I’m a pretty chilled human being with strong boundaries for these people.

Don’t ever be scared, if you see the signs stand up to your morals and set healthy boundaries and tell them to stop controlling you. This is especially good when said in front of other people. 

We’re not going to end the narcissism epidemic but we can try to alleviate it a little atleast for you 

Big hugs
Vikki xxx
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