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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How To Be In Control

Let’s just clarify if you want to be in control this does not include controlling other people  or their actions especially in relationships or families, you can only control YOUR behaviour, actions and responses. 

Control is also not a good  word, I prefer to use the word masterpiece. 

How I create my masterpiece is to know what I want, go get it and educate everyone about it and if they like it it’s a bonus. 

The word control is so antiquated for the world we use to live in that no longer exists, it’s all about collaboration with people and the world. 

Fighting does work on a small scale (let’s say a minute) but if you want to make it big, collaboration works on a lifetime scale (for the rest of your life) 

I’ve seen numerous businesses and relationships break up because people are trying to control other people and it doesn’t work, it never has 

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