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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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how to quit bad habits cold turkey

 The quickest way to quit bad habits cold turkey is so change the language you are saying to yourself,

Instead of saying

I am a smoker

I am a alcoholic 

I am unhealthy

I am unfit

I can’t cook

 Say

I am a non smoker

I am a modest drinker

I am healthy

I am fit 

I am a chef 


Simply by changing the language you are telling yourself changes your identity and beliefs and creates a healthier you. 

Simply put a post it note on your Home Screen of your phone (I use sticky widgets from the App Store)  

Saying for example 

I am a 

Professional 

Nice person

Non smoker

Modest drinker

Healthy eater 

Entrepreneur 

Multiple income person 


I hope this  helps, please leave your feedback in the comment section below 

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