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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How To Instantly Get Someone To Leave You Alone

There’s nothing more annoying than someone having a fixation on you and it’s normally because they want to go out with you but you don’t want to go out with them, I’ve had this so I completely understand how frustrating it is when they don’t listen.

My top tips are to give them as little information about what you’re up to as possible and just do your own thing and meet your friends (not theirs) 

Don’t instantly respond to their demanding texts and think clearly what “your” plans are for the day

If you socialise in the same places, go by yourself rather than with them and don’t tell them when your going so all of your friends know your not “together”

Talk to your friends about the situation so everyone has your back and if need be call the police but they will only tell you to “cut all communication” unless there are threats involved then this is a job for the police. 

Good luck, you’ve got this, you’re a strong person and no one can beat you down without your authority 😘
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