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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How To Stop Being Angry At Someone

 Being angry at someone is a complete waste of energy, that person may do things that annoy you or criticise you but you can not control the words they say or the actions they take. 

The basic knowledge behind being angry at someone is that you are reflecting their anger back at them and they only way to stop this is to reflect love back at their anger instead.

So the next time someone criticises you, lets say they say your selfish just reply in a nice and loving way and say "thank you that's how I look after myself and give myself self care"

The main thing here is not to reflect the anger back as you are not angry but they are.

Look after yourself and be you, no one can change you without your consent.



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