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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

Why is my girlfriend so unhappy with our relationship

 I’m unhappy a lot of the time with my boyfriend because he treats me like a utility rather than a girlfriend. 

He thinks buying  me meals and  flowers will make me happy, he flirts with other girls to make me jealous but this just makes me more unhappy. 

Help and spend time with her, don’t push her away!

When there’s a chore to do around the house, do it! She’s not your slave! 

She needs you, not your money! 

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