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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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Me Time Ideas For Moms

 Being a mom is a 24/7 full time job so getting “Me Time” seems impossible but guess what it isn’t! 

Set certain times of the day to be “Me Time” and tell the kids and your hubby that there are no distractions at these times. 

My “MeTimes” are 

6:30-7:00am I wake up before everyone else, make myself a cuppa and read a book or play scrabble online

8:15-8:30am after the kids have gone to school I take the dog for a walk

5:00-5:30 after feeding the kids I make myself a nutritious meal (normally salmon and salad) 

9:00-10pm after the kids are in bed I enjoy a movie with a glass of wine 

10pm I go to bed to make sure I get a full 8 hours sleep

Other “Me Time” ideas I do are

Every 8 weeks get my hair done alone

Do a supermarket shop with no kids or hubby 

Sit in the sun for 10 minute breaks


I hope this has helped you get more “Me Time” because we all need it x 

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