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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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Using Humour As a Coping Mechanism

I use humour as a coping mechanism to make life more bearable!

 I get out of bed and make myself a cuppa tea while my partner sleeps, get back into bed he wakes up and sayes “where’s mine, you only think of yourself” and I respond with “the kettle boiled whilst you were asleep, the next time it boils you’d better be awake”  

Whilst he’s stressing about bloody everything and blaming me for his mistakes I decide to make him a funny face sandwich 

Whilst he’s smoking himself to death I send him  a picture of lung cancer and then a dead person 

He criticises everything I do, I compliment  his behaviour as the “excellent critic, everyone needs” 

Oh my god I could go on forever but using humour as a coping mechanism does reduce your stress and anxiety massively 

Hope this helps! 
Vx 
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