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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How to STOP Bullying in School

Bullies are everywhere so changing schools and telling the teacher will only last a day or two before that bully reoffends! 

The only way to deal with a bully is to not tolerate their behaviour. 

They are persistent and will go on and on and on until they get your attention but if they don’t get your attention they’ll move on to the next target which isn’t great but if the next target ignores them they will eventually have no one to target. 

Different rules apply if there is a group of bullies which is not so much fun as they’ll group up and seem more threatening but the trick here is to get a big buddy that they’ll be scared of (easier said than done hey! ) but maybe not! Is there a older student (not a teacher their useless) that is around a lot and you can ask for them to keep an eye out for the next time they corner you ( mention to your big buddy when this happens say at break time after lunch and they’ll be on watch out) once you have this strategic plan in place your big buddy will have to tell them to stop a few times with great authority and with in a few days they’ll get bored and move to their next target that will have to do the same! 

Just remember bullies are only bullies because of their own insecurities, the problem isn’t you it’s them 

Stay safe & be strong .... you got this xxx

Vx 

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