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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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how to get motivated to do anything

If you want to get REALLY motivated then you need to liven up your brain and get moving, don’t think about it just do it. 

Turn the music on, get into the right clothes for the job and just do it 

If everyone else is still in bed, pretend their not there and achieve all your goals before midday and feel fucking amazing. 

Here are a few examples that will make you feel fucking amazing 

  1. Clean the fridge
  2. Precook 2 x chickens and put in containers for the week ( you can make curries, salads, sandwiches) 
  3. Make fruit smoothies and put them in the fridge for healthy snacks (frozen berries and bananas & OJ is a really easy recipe)
  4. Clean the kitchen
  5. Clean the living room
  6. Clear away all the dishes 
  7. Paint a room that you’ve been meaning to do 
  8. Buy house plants 🪴 
  9. If you’ve still got time cook everyone a roast dinner 
  10. Now you can relax! 
Let me know if this has helped 
Vikki x 

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