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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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 I know how this feels as I have been in this loop for longer than I should have been, it only came to light when I got rid of all the alcohol in the house and woke up to see my real world! It brings tears to my eyes that I was just living in a fake world with one horrible person and I never saw the light until last week! 

People words can do horrible things to us, like eating disorders, drinking, smoking and drugs but it’s only when we let their feelings in that we’re in DEEP TROUBLE!!!

You are a beautiful star and you deserve the dream life you were born to live so give up everything that is bad for you including relationships and start living the healthier and happier life you deserve . 

So this is my life today with no self sabotage 😊

Eat lots of berries

Drink caffeine free tea & coffee (red bush tea is yummy)

Eat the Dr Gundry Lectin free diet ( I didn’t realise how many poisoness foods there were out there!) if you eat 5 raw kidney beans they could kill you!!! So I stick to lean meats and roasted kale(yummy) for the Time being until I get bored!

I also try and Zoom a good friend every day just to keep me sane

Hope this helps

Viks x 


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