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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

why does my wife hate me

  1.  Your selfish
  2. You don’t give love you just want sex
  3. You keep putting me down 
  4. Your angry
  5. And the list goes on
But if you want to stop your wife from hating you just walk up to her, even if she’s angry and give her the most caring hug.
Keep doing this and she’ll stop hating you and feel she has your support.
You need to work as a team and she feels it’s one sided for some reason 

BIG HUGS 🤗 🥰
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