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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

How to stop drinking wine every night

If you drink wine every night, your not alone it just seems the way everyone copes with life or it’s just a pattern. 

  1. Write down your daily pattern 
  2. Write  your NEW ideal pattern. 
  3. Compare the 2 lists
  4. Start today, change 1 thing 
  5. Carry on tomorrow change another thing
  6. Think of it as a challenge 
  7. Have fun & feel the new you
Lastly if you get pressure to drink say NO and be the better you


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