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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

how to take back control of your mind

 You may have  a controlling partner or boss that tries to manipulate you into their way of thinking but as soon as you realise this you can learn how to take back control of your mind.

“Their thoughts are their life“

“Your thoughts are your life”

Keep them separate 

When ever you have a conversation, don’t let their thoughts take over your mind no matter how manipulative  they are.

ALWAYS TALK FROM YOUR HEAD AND KNOW WHO YOU ARE 

NEVER agree with them to make it go away this way YOU LOOSE 

Another tip is don’t drink as anyone who is sober will play with your mind and you won’t remember in the morning! 

Hope this helps

Vx 

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