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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How to love you money again

 If you feel you waste your money on things that don’t bring you joy, you haven’t learnt how to love your money. 


So instead of buying those 10 chocolate bars, buy something that will make your life nicer. 

Open a savings account and call it “I Love Money” and transfer all your spare change into it, before you know it there will be enough to treat yourself to something you’ve always wanted. 

The trick is to not disillusion yourself that bad things are a treat! Ie: wine!!! Because once it’s gone it’s gone. Treat yourself to something you can appreciate on a daily basis

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