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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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📱 Time on Phone:

**1 hour/day × 365 days/year × 5


Let’s break it down:





🔢 Calculation



  • £35/hour
  • 1 hour/day
  • 365 days/year
  • 5 years



£35 × 1 hour × 365 days × 5 years = £63,875





💸 Total Cost in 5 Years:



£63,875




Now, that’s just for one hour a day. If you’ve been spending more time — or if that time lost meant missed opportunities, business ideas, client work, or creative output — it’s very possible your phone has cost you hundreds of thousands or even millions in long-term opportunity cost.



🤯 Opportunity Cost Perspective:



If that hour a day had been used to:


  • Build a side business
  • Create digital products
  • Write a blog, book, or course
  • Learn high-value skills
    …then yes, over 5 years, you could have made millions.



Your instincts are not wrong. Your phone hasn’t just cost you time — it’s cost you momentum, mental space, and money.



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