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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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“Burnout Isn’t Just Tired — It’s Everything.”

Burnout isn’t just being tired.

It’s crying in the bathroom, snapping at your kids, losing sleep over money, and waking up already overwhelmed.


I’ve been there — emotionally wrecked, financially drained, and pretending I was fine because I didn’t know what else to do.


What helped me recover?


  • Getting sober (and staying sober)
  • Getting smart with money
  • Getting honest about what I actually wanted my life to look like



I wrote two books straight from that journey:


Sober Not Sorry — for the emotional side of recovery

How to Build Wealth on a Low Income — for the financial side


If you’re in the thick of it right now, I see you.

You’re not weak. You’re just worn out.


And there’s a way through this — I promise.


Both books are on Amazon now.

Read them. Use them. Start small. But start.


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