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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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how to calculate student loan debt it’s scary!!!

Student loans sting most 20 year olds into their adult life and beyond reducing the possibility of buying a house and living securely. Don’t get me wrong though, if you can get a student loan that generates a job and income of more than the loan in a few years you can pay it off nice and easily but if your on a low income with this amount of debt it can be a massive burden. 

First see if there are any grants (free non repayment loans) and internships (earn while you learn) 

Here’s an example schools don’t teach you! 

Student loan £60k 

Interest 2%

Loan term 20 years 

Repayment every year = £60k + 2% = £61,200

Repayment over 20 years £60k plus £2,100 x 20 = £42,000 + £60k = £82k total repayment divided  into 20 years is 

Total capital & interest repayment is £4,100 per year x 20 years is £82k 

That’s £341.66 per month  for 20 years 

If you can pay lump sums off asap this will reduce the interest liability and save you £2,100 interest a year accumulative. 

Make the long term calculations, not just the short term 

Good luck 

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