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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...
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How To Calm Anxiety Until It Stops

I have been in a toxic relationship so know exactly how you’re feeling, that nervous feeling will not go away and it constantly feels like you’re on guard of being attacked. 

The first thing you need to do is delete ALL toxic people out of your life, they can not control you, only you can control you. 

Only once you’ve done this will the anxiety stop so it’s a must. 

You must set aside some time for yourself where no one else is around and sit down and write a list of all the things you haven’t done and slowly work your way through the list, add something fun at the end of the list so you have something to look forward to, say a spa day? 🥰

Your mental health is so important to your identity, something I heard the other day might help…

“You are the gatekeeper to your mind, don’t let anyone else in that isn’t helping you grow into a better person”

You got this x 

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