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Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident

Attachment Weaponisation: The Bond Was Never an Accident I never noticed the closeness being built. I just assumed it was love, and assumed what I owed because of it, without either of us ever saying it out loud. Short version: Trauma bonding is usually described as something that happens to you, almost by accident, through unpredictable reward. A 2025 Cambridge study, interviewing eighteen women with sustained attachment to abusive partners, found something sharper underneath that: the closeness itself is often deliberately constructed early on, specifically so it can be exploited later. Researchers call this attachment weaponisation. The unsettling part is that it isn't always obvious while it's happening. It can feel completely organic, right up until you realise how much invisible obligation got built into it along the way. What is attachment weaponisation? A 2025 study led by researchers at the University of Cambridge, published in the journal Violence Aga...

How to make yourself feel better


10 ways to make yourself feel better RIGHT NOW
  1.  Make your own face scrub with sugar and olive oil for a smooth wrinkle free face 
  2. Put some highlights in your hair
  3. Eat superfoods  - the best are salads 
  4. Wear bright colours 
  5. Dye your eyelashes - mascara runs and only lasts a day
  6. Paint your nails - I like a french manicure look
  7. Call a friend and have a laugh 
  8. Joke around 
  9. Make funny post it notes around the house 
  10. Smile

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