The Real Reason You’re Tired (It’s Not Your Schedule)
Most people think they’re tired because they’re busy.
They’re not.
They’re tired because they’re carrying things that aren’t theirs.
You can handle a full day.
You can handle responsibility.
You can handle pressure.
What drains you is this:
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Managing other people’s emotions
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Explaining yourself repeatedly
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Overthinking how you’re perceived
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Holding tension that was never resolved
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Making yourself smaller to avoid friction
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Acting calm while your nervous system is lit up
That’s not a time problem.
That’s a load problem.
You don’t need more productivity hacks.
You need fewer invisible burdens.
Notice how exhausted you feel after:
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Being around someone unpredictable
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Keeping the peace
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Holding back what you actually think
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Pretending something doesn’t bother you
That’s not weakness.
That’s prolonged self-suppression.
And it compounds.
Here’s the uncomfortable truth:
You’re not tired because life is hard.
You’re tired because you’ve been operating in environments where you can’t fully relax.
Even at home.
Even in relationships.
Even around people who “love you”.
When you’re always monitoring,
you’re never resting.
When you’re always anticipating,
you’re never safe.
That’s not laziness.
That’s survival.
The people who look calm?
Look closer.
Some of them have simply:
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stopped carrying what isn’t theirs
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stopped managing adults
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stopped over-functioning
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stopped volunteering for emotional labour
They didn’t optimise.
They reduced load.
What if your exhaustion isn’t a flaw?
What if it’s accurate feedback?
Not “do more”.
Not “be better”.
Just:
You’re carrying too much.
And some of it isn’t yours.
If this hit something — it’s because you recognised yourself.
Not because you’re dramatic.
Because you’re perceptive.
And perception is the beginning of change.
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